Date with Dad

I've been dying to see the new Iron Man 2 movie and my dad suggested we should go see it. It was just me and him going to the movies. It was really nice. I don't usually get to spend that much time one on one with my dad and I definitely enjoyed the time I was able to spend with him on this "date." This "date" went perfectly, we had already agreed on the movie and when it came to snacks my Dad knew exactly what I liked. My dad immediately ordered two diet cokes and popcorn with extra butter. I didn't have to explain that, yes I understand that having buttery popcorn and a diet drink is pointless, I just like the taste, my Dad already knew that and likes the same thing. We got into the movie, thankfully in enough time to get to see the previews, which I love to watch. We whispered during the previews which ones we liked and we would have to go see together, without it being awkward wondering if you will still be together when the movie comes out, because well its my dad, he has to stick around. Lol. On the way home I rambled on about my friends and everything else that was going on in my life, probably boring the poor man to tears but at the same time it was nice to get to share my life with my dad and I know he appreciated that I was sharing.

Overall, one of the best dates I went on, just a simple movie with my dad. Spending time with your family is a great way to make better relationships in your family. I usually spend a lot of time with my mom one on one so I am thinking a date with my little sister is next on my list of things to do.

A Brand New Day

Rule Number 3:

Broaden my horizons and try new things.

So while I am single and not tied down, so to speak, I am going to go out and try new things. What better time than to discover new things and meet new people. There are so many things out there that I have never tried that I may very well enjoy. While out there broadening my horizons I could find a new passion. This time is about discovering myself and trying new things allows me to do just that. I will be looking for events and activites that I have never tried before. Through these new activites I can find new friends and new hobbies/interests.

If there is anyone out there who might actually be reading this and has an interesting activity for me to try, by all means, I'd love to hear it.

The Big Doosie

Rule Number 2:

No romantic relationships. Boys are just friends. (No boyfriends, flings, friends with benefits, etc.)

I have had so many different relationships in my life already and it is time for me to experience the single life. I am about to be a senior in college and the longest I have been single since I started dating was for two years in middle school. It has been a long time since I have been able to experience things on my own without a guy by my side. I do want to find a reliable man someday that I can trust. Just because I haven't found Mr. Perfect yet doesn't mean that I should settle for Mr. Right Now. I am trying to learn that I am worth having a great guy and don't need to date rude, arrogant jerks that don't appreciate me for who I really am.

This rule is the "big doosie" because this is the biggest limitation that I am giving myself in the challenge. I want to learn to love myself as a single person and not rely on a relationship to feel good about myself. In order to do this I have to eliminate the relationships from my life. This will be the difficult rule but I believe in the end it will be worth it.

The Rules

Rule Number 1: (aka my golden rule for this project)

This project is not about the lack of relationship with a boy but the presence of a relationship with myself.

Meaning I am going to be working on more self confidence and more independence. I'd like to have more "me time" I guess you would call it. I am a person that always surrounds myself with company, but I need to also be able to learn to be happy with the company of myself. Whether the "me time" be something like pampering, self-improvement (working out), or just relaxing by myself, I think it is something I should have in my life. During this 365 days (currently 362) I will improve the relationship with myself.

I will work to my self-esteem. I'm unsure exactly how to do this but I think positive thinking would be a good start. It may seem like arrogance to compliment yourself or think of yourself in such a high manner but if you don't believe you are worth anything, it is going to be hard for someone else to. So you know what, I AM a smart, pretty, and funny young lady and I AM worth something. Well, it's a start even though it just seems arrogant right now. Also, I am going to take pride in myself and try to make sure I give a good appearance by taking the time to look nice. Because I'm worth it. :)

Making a Decision to be Happy

I am what my friends have called a serial monogamous. I am 21 years old and have been dating since I was 12 years old in middle school. I have had 4 relationships that have lasted 6 months or longer, with the longest lasting 2 1/2 years, each time getting crushed in the end. I am tired of dating and being let down again and again. I have a tendency to not be single for long but you know what I have decided that I am going to be happy with being single. I don't need a man to make me happy. I don't need a boyfriend!

Pretty much I am going to focus on myself and the relationship between me and well, me. That is the one that is going to last a lifetime. No more boys. Not that I don't like boys, oh I do trust me, but right now boys are only friends and will be for the next 365 days. For the next year I am not looking for a boyfriend. Which works out fine by me as this fall I will be a Senior in college. I need to focus on my studies rather than trying to make a relationship work only to end with graduation and people going separate ways.

Now my dilemma with this pact is, what if Mr. Perfect (if he even exists) comes waltzing into my life this year. I am going to keep my relationship with myself first and take things with the so called Mr. Perfect very, very slow, like snail pace. I am not going to limit myself completely and say that if this guy that is absolutely perfect for me comes in and I turn him down because of a pact that I made with myself. However, I don't want to rush into anything and I don't want to feel like I have to be in a relationship with a guy to be happy.

Because for the next 365 days, I am going to be happy with being single.