The Rules

Rule Number 1: (aka my golden rule for this project)

This project is not about the lack of relationship with a boy but the presence of a relationship with myself.

Meaning I am going to be working on more self confidence and more independence. I'd like to have more "me time" I guess you would call it. I am a person that always surrounds myself with company, but I need to also be able to learn to be happy with the company of myself. Whether the "me time" be something like pampering, self-improvement (working out), or just relaxing by myself, I think it is something I should have in my life. During this 365 days (currently 362) I will improve the relationship with myself.

I will work to my self-esteem. I'm unsure exactly how to do this but I think positive thinking would be a good start. It may seem like arrogance to compliment yourself or think of yourself in such a high manner but if you don't believe you are worth anything, it is going to be hard for someone else to. So you know what, I AM a smart, pretty, and funny young lady and I AM worth something. Well, it's a start even though it just seems arrogant right now. Also, I am going to take pride in myself and try to make sure I give a good appearance by taking the time to look nice. Because I'm worth it. :)

Making a Decision to be Happy

I am what my friends have called a serial monogamous. I am 21 years old and have been dating since I was 12 years old in middle school. I have had 4 relationships that have lasted 6 months or longer, with the longest lasting 2 1/2 years, each time getting crushed in the end. I am tired of dating and being let down again and again. I have a tendency to not be single for long but you know what I have decided that I am going to be happy with being single. I don't need a man to make me happy. I don't need a boyfriend!

Pretty much I am going to focus on myself and the relationship between me and well, me. That is the one that is going to last a lifetime. No more boys. Not that I don't like boys, oh I do trust me, but right now boys are only friends and will be for the next 365 days. For the next year I am not looking for a boyfriend. Which works out fine by me as this fall I will be a Senior in college. I need to focus on my studies rather than trying to make a relationship work only to end with graduation and people going separate ways.

Now my dilemma with this pact is, what if Mr. Perfect (if he even exists) comes waltzing into my life this year. I am going to keep my relationship with myself first and take things with the so called Mr. Perfect very, very slow, like snail pace. I am not going to limit myself completely and say that if this guy that is absolutely perfect for me comes in and I turn him down because of a pact that I made with myself. However, I don't want to rush into anything and I don't want to feel like I have to be in a relationship with a guy to be happy.

Because for the next 365 days, I am going to be happy with being single.